For The Last Time I Did Not Lose My Virginity To Evan Dando
[First, can I say that Stereogum fucking loves Juliana Hatfield? Also, buy the new Some Girls.]
By Juliana Hatfield
The Weekly Dig Issue 8.34
Wed, August 23, 2006
A little background: Several weeks ago, Dig music writer Debbie Driscoll wrote a review of the new Soul Asylum CD, which, among other things, playfully suggested the band should die for what they?ve done to music. This occasioned an angry letter from local rock legend Juliana Hatfield, who assailed the review for being ?not punk rock.? This, as these things are bound to do, occasioned another letter by one Kevin Dean, in which he offered the following: ?Wishing death (or at least a hair-washing) upon Soul Asylum: not punk rock. Losing your virginity to Evan Dando: totally fucking punk rock.?
In the interest of ending this spat, which has quickly spiraled out of control (and also because it?s running too long for our Letters page), we?ve decided to publish Ms. Hatfield?s response as a Soapbox.
A. Who told you I lost my virginity to Evan Dando?
B. Why do you care?
As a matter of fact, I didn?t lose my virginity to Evan Dando. (Not that it?s any of your business, you perv.) You are not the first, however, to have made this assumption, so I guess I forgive you. There are, sadly, a lot of punk rockers out there who apparently have nothing better to do with their very limited brain space than to speculate about people they?ve never met and come to erroneous conclusions about them, and thereby think nasty things about them (and even sometimes wish for their deaths).
We?ve never met, have we? I?m pretty sure we haven?t. ?Kevin Dean? doesn?t ring a bell. I can say with 99 percent certainty that I don?t know you and you don?t know me. So, what the hell? What is your beef with me, exactly? You didn?t like what I said in my letter to the editor? That?s fine. I can understand that. But why drag Evan, and my and his fabled?FABLED?sex life into it?
There are people who do know me?in real life as opposed to make-believe?who will confirm that, to the best of their knowledge, I do indeed belong to a distinguished, though probably small, group of girls who can claim the distinction of having said no to going all the way with Evan Dando. Or you could just go straight to the horse?s mouth and ask Evan?he?ll tell you.
It pains me to have to talk about such personal stuff in this public forum (I?ve never actually stated these technical facts about Evan and my supposed sexual life and ?relationship? on the record, until this very moment), but it will hurt me even more, Kevin Dean, to let you get away with using such a groundless, baseless, truthless, LAME argument to take your pitiful shot at me.
Besides, I?ve always been kind of proud of the fact that I didn?t succumb to any outside pressure, ever, to indulge in sexual intercourse, or blowjobs or anything?with the handsome, charming Evan Dando, or anyone else?until I was good and ready. You can?t take that away from me, Kevin Dean. And that is why I am setting the record straight: so you and all the other sorry-ass, lie-spreading, rumour- and hatemongering, Dig-reading shit-for-brains out there will shut up about all the stuff you know nothing about.
And so, in summation, just to be clear, because I sense the subject is pretty important to you?important enough for you to write a letter to the editor?and I really want you to not have to worry about it anymore: Evan and I never did it. Never! Got it? Now can we please just put this ancient subject to bed? Go and pick on someone who deserves it, like the person who wrote the ill-conceived Soul Asylum review in question.
PS: For your information, I lost my virginity to Spike Jonze. I?m totally serious.