Also because Ray stomped all over Dave’s birthday cake. Reunion “news” on an afternoon fraught with sibling rivalry: Ray and Dave Davies, the Kinks core gene pool and Mendelian blueprint for Noel and Liam’s bro-bickering, still don’t get along, and their sustained acrimony has all but assured you’ll never get to see a Kinks reunion show evermore. To Dave’s credit, he seems just as cynical and aware of the reputation tarnishing potential of the last few years’ Bands Reunited craze (“It would be a shame. You don’t need to see silly old men in wheelchairs singing ‘You Really Got Me'”), but really it’s about how much ill-will he has toward his brother: they communicate only via email, and only on business matters, having gone at least 2-3 years without seeing each other. Ray calls Dave a “proud man,” Dave calls Ray “an asshole.” These quotes Dave recently furnished The Daily Mail with are illustrative of his hard feelings. Sense of humor, too:
- “You’ve heard of vampires. Well, Ray sucks me dry of ideas, emotions and creativity. It’s toxic for me to be with him. He’s a control freak.”
- “We must be careful. We might be feeding Ray’s illness by making him think he’s more interesting than he is.” When asked to identify Ray’s illness: “He’s a narcissist.”
- “I think Ray has been happy for only three years in his life. And those were the three years before I was born.”
Nicely done, Dave. At least some good has come from their tense relationship, as it’s inspired Dave to study metaphysics and psychology, both because “When I first started to realize what an asshole Ray was, I thought I am going to investigate this.” One could call that turning sour grapes into whine, but at the end of the day, and the interview, Dave says “I could never not love Ray. He’s my brother.” That candid confession of love is tempered by the anecdote about the time Ray threw Dave a party for his 50th birthday (since Ray has most of the songwriting credits and therefore most of the money), only to interrupt, give a speech honoring himself, then stamp all over Dave’s cake with his foot.
If there ever is a reunion, which doesn’t look likely, someone please bring Dave lots of consolation cake. Also: adding Dave’s autobio to my wishlist.