Tim Curtin

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"He’s making her seem like the bad guy, which is way too common a practice among all genders, but particularly with men towards women. I’m not saying that part is rapey per say, but I would call it slightly misogynistic." Definitely making her into the bad guy and definitely, everyone's guilty of that, but not sure there's a way to back up the assertion that it's "particularly with men towards women". it's 100% not "rapey" nor misogynistic. nothing in the lyrics you quoted in your response indicate contempt or prejudice toward women.
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July 4, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
totally! as i've stated, i'm only referring to the lyrics of the song that were posted
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
"Your response is puzzling. This piece is about this d bag harassing girls. I read the lyrics to a song he’s written that, in my opinion, support the suspicion he’s a skeeze. Which, you know, as the piece suggests HE ACTUALLY IS." as i said, i'm only referring to the lyrics of the song that was linked to. none of my arguments are addressing this article or the person. so that should clear up some of the confusion. "A person doesn’t have to come out and say, “I hate women,” to be regarded as a misogynist. Just like a person doesn’t have to use the n word to be a racist. It appears you’re actually quite unfamiliar with characteristics of a sexual predator (which, hey, good for you) to not understand there is often a pernicious familiarity, an imagined intimacy that exists in predators towards their victims. If I’d have heard that song on the radio I can honestly say my response would have been, “Gross. Who is this creep?”" i agree you don't have to explicitly state your misogyny. but again, my arguments are all focused at just this one song's lyrics, not this article or charges/allegations against the song's author. there are no examples of misogyny in this particular song's lyrics, explicit or implicit. not sure why you had to make this personal, but i am a victim of sexual assault, so unfortunately i am rather familiar with sexual predation. though my reaction to hearing this song would've been not terribly dissimilar than your own, "this song blows. quit whining already." "A term like “rapey” normalizes nothing. In fact in puts into consciousness something that traditionally women have often not felt at ease to acknowledge openly. It refers to a “sense” with obvious caution. It’s like being at a bar and a drink being sent over by a guy who just gives you the heebie jeebies. I don’t waste my time trying to defend that sense rationally I trust my instinct. I always encourage women to feel more at ease trusting that instinct (rather than throttling it by excessive intellectualizing). It’s unfortunate you don’t see the value of women recognizing a creep when they hear one." I don't understand - the word "rapey" raises awareness and it makes women feel more comfortable about acknowledging, what - the existence of rape? Taking your 'at the bar' scenario, if a creepy looking dude bought you a drink and based on your assessment turned it down, would you turn to your friend who you know had been raped and say "i'm not taking that drink. he looks rapey."? I agree completely that you gotta trust your gut. not sure many would disagree with that. But I'm not sure what (you mean or) makes you think i "don't see the value of women recognizing a creep when they hear one."
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
thanks for your thoughtful response - the only thing i'm getting otherwise are downvotes - makes me think ppl just hate this guy and/or dont have a decent counterpoint to what i've said. oh well. but anyway, i'm not aware of what his deal is, pother than what i jsut read a minute ago int his article. i'm only arguing that the lyrics that were linked to his song 'front porch steps' aren't "rapey", 'misogynistic', or indicate 'sexual predation' and that the colloquialization and incorrect use of those terms is damaging to those who have actually experienced those things and to the movement to combat those atrocities.
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
right on, thanks for the info.
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July 2, 2015 on Taylor Swift’s 1989 Is The Bestselling Vinyl Of 2015 So Far
Tossing around words and phrases like "rapey", "misogyny", and "sexual predator" both haphazardly and incorrectly when referring to this one song's worth of lyrics belittles and trivializes the horrible experiences of those who have actually been raped, subject to misogyny and/or sexual predation. It slows down progress to combat rape, misogyny, and sexual predation when you normalize them by using reductive terms like "rapey" to describe the lyrics from a single song.
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
by the way, this is the first i've ever heard of this guy. never heard a note of his music. just thought i'd point out the baseless claims against these particular 'damnit, why won't you love me back?! boo hoo' lyrics.
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
what in the lyrics indicate 'sexual predation'?
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
that's not what misogyny is. misogyny is the dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. where in the lyrics does he display contempt for women?
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
where in the lyrics do you get the idea that he thinks he's "entitled" to the girl? nothing in the lyrics say anything to the effect "i inherently deserve to have you" or "i have a justifiable claim to you"
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
how is frustration with unrequited love tantamount to rape exactly? nowhere does the song imply any sort of "obligation" for the girl to reciprocate. no "it's your duty! you're gonna do what i say right now!"
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
yeah gotta be Urban Outfitters. Miles Davis?!
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July 2, 2015 on Taylor Swift’s 1989 Is The Bestselling Vinyl Of 2015 So Far
with most of these being purchased at urban outfitters, right? i dunno why that bothers me. better than ppl buying digital. maybe it's cuz UO marks them up so high. they do, right? and also def cuz i'd feel so lame walking out of an UO with vinyl under my arm. vanity, man.
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July 2, 2015 on Taylor Swift’s 1989 Is The Bestselling Vinyl Of 2015 So Far
anyone hit the pop-up shop at union station today?
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July 2, 2015 on Foo Fighters’ 20th Anniversary Blowout Is On, But No Weird Weapons Or Uncured Meats Allowed
what's so objectionable about these lyrics?
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July 2, 2015 on Bands Protest Fellow Warped Tour Act Accused Of Sexual Misconduct
i wonder if there will be any surprise appearances. novoselic? mackaye?
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June 30, 2015 on Foo Fighters’ 20th Anniversary Blowout Is On, But No Weird Weapons Or Uncured Meats Allowed
first season's great, this season, not nearly as funny IMO
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June 22, 2015 on Amy Schumer To Open For Madonna
hysterical and relevant with humorless and irrelevant. i get it!
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June 18, 2015 on Amy Schumer To Open For Madonna