onceler

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currently true, just purely being sexually aggressive and unable to receive the signals that you are getting (or not) isn't really it's own mental illness, today. it might be, in the future. part of the whole 'me too' campaign is just a call for men to react in everyday circumstances to witnessed behavior. so many men get either an eyeroll or some uncomfortable joking from other men when they intimate intentions to be predatory or recounts acts of predation. I've listenend to Dan Savage talk about pedolphiles who have sought out treatment themselves and been given strategies to deal with it, and to refrain from acting on impulses and badly considered courses of action. I think that to really get rid of 'rape culture', this kind of aggressive behavior in which women are not considered as actual humans should be thought of as not that differently than pedophilia. it must be absolutely unacceptable up and down the board, and people need strategies for dealing with it, methods to ground their harmful impulses without hurting others. I mean more of a cultural shift is necessary than some new label to call predatory males.
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October 16, 2017 on Sexual Misconduct Allegations Against Former Real Estate Guitarist Matt Mondanile Detailed
right, that's what I mean by trying to just generally encourage people who feel that way to seek treatment. if you need non-consent to get off, that is abnormal, and will eventually lead to ruinous and tragic results. the Brock Turners of the world may be un-reachable, but probably some people are...
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October 16, 2017 on Sexual Misconduct Allegations Against Former Real Estate Guitarist Matt Mondanile Detailed
Well, having read the comments above, here are my thoughts that no one asked for. (1) It's certainly possible to fire someone from a band, say it is for the reason that he mistreated women, sexually, and also say that the victims have requested privacy. (2) Perpetrators should endeavor to have a better response than, essentially, "I'll be better" (/butthead). Some self-interrogation is necessary. Admitting to actual acts, taking responsibility (as much as possible), pledging to undergo therapy (not for non-existent "sex addiction", but in a real way). (3) Let's just generally encourage men who have weird urges like this (a good-looking indie rock star in a successful band is rarely short on consensual opportunities...) to dominate and force women who have given no indication that they want such a thing to seek treatment preemptively so that they don't ruin their own and other people's lives and careers. This is a sickness! Get help, please!!
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October 16, 2017 on Sexual Misconduct Allegations Against Former Real Estate Guitarist Matt Mondanile Detailed
yeahh, I mean, I take 100mg per night of the stuff as a sleep aid, but I don't really understand how one would turn it into a drug of abuse...it would be really difficult to OD on benadryl alone...
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October 15, 2017 on Alex Calder Dropped From Captured Tracks After Sexual Assault Allegation
Squeeze?!? man, what does Squeeze sing about in 2017, I wonder...?
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October 10, 2017 on Album Of The Week: Courtney Barnett & Kurt Vile Lotta Sea Lice
RIP https://youtu.be/z_umeMtV4QU
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October 2, 2017 on Tom Petty Dead At 66
Morrissey is incapable of understanding that he probably knows less and is less educated than the average person who used to constitute his fan base. What he's left with in a crowd now are a mix of genuinely dumb know-nothings, and the poor souls who haven't yet figured out that the guy has become a hard-right white supremacist. The former have, indeed, not read any news lately. The latter are staring at him, open-mouthed, astonished at exactly how far this guy has fallen.
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October 2, 2017 on Hear Morrissey Debut Four Songs, Claim UKIP Leadership Election Was Rigged In BBC 6 Music Session
Aw man, reading that made me miss my beloved Juno 6 that hurricane Sandy saw fit to destroy back in 2012.
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September 25, 2017 on Are You From Here?
my advice on best way to get into Cut Copy is listen to 'Bright Like Neon Love', IMO it's a more interesting series of vocal performances because it's largely just him and he stretches a bit more and fux with it a bit more. when they became a full-on band their vocals started really doubling down on lots of 'doo doo doo' 'ah ah ah' stuff that I've never been quite as into. BLNL is my single favorite album of the 2000-2010 decade though, so obvs I am biased. But even if you do listen to that & hate it, see them live. They can really light it up. Its often a douchey crowd tho...
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September 22, 2017 on Shut Up, Dude: This Week’s Best And Worst Comments
IMO, Stereolab didn't make a bad sound from 'Transient Random Noise-bursts...' all the way through this album. '...the Milky Night' doesn't quite have the same oomph, but it's still quite good. They really rearranged some parts of my brain in a beneficial way.
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September 22, 2017 on Dots And Loops Turns 20
my take on this: people should sue Robin Thicke for several other things in addition, and leave Bruno Mars alone. not that anyone asked for my take on this.
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September 22, 2017 on 24K Starboys: Thoughts Upon Seeing The Weeknd & Bruno Mars On Consecutive Nights
hmm, for all of the general agreement you see around here that 'the artist' should be viewed separately from 'the art' (a sentiment with which I emphatically do not agree), it's a bit surprising to see a single quote, as stupid and out of touch as it was, forming the basis for an album review. as a bunch of comments have mentioned, if I had to do that kind of a press tour, even if I had somehow managed to eke out a successful album, I almost certainly would have torpedoed whatever career I had by getting frustrated and saying something abominable just to shut people the fuck up. that said, nobody should say "thee" or "thy" anymore in rock. just nobody. the last song to successfully do this was "who's gonna ride your wild horses", and we should all leave it there.
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September 15, 2017 on Premature Evaluation: The Killers Wonderful Wonderful
yeah it's a shame the way people write that album off, it's full of great tracks. and it doesn't make your ears bleed...I also really loved some of the stuff from Candy Apply Grey too, but not as good an album on the whole as Warehouse
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September 14, 2017 on Hüsker Dü’s Grant Hart Dead At 56
OK, is it time to start checking this guy's basement for unwilling inhabitants?
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September 10, 2017 on The Weeknd – “Down Low” (R. Kelly Cover)
it seems like we have truly entered "I like everything, and technically, this is something!" territory here. did any of these words really merit writing? look, this shit fucking blows. objectively, it bloweth. there is a difference between 'this is good' and 'a lot of money was spent on this', I worry that people are lacking a proper sense of this...
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September 5, 2017 on Somehow, We Are Absolutely Ready For Taylor Swift’s Rapping-About-Being-Horny-Over-Dubstep Single
the dude from Battles is insane, but he also used to be in Helmet. is that disqualifying?
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September 1, 2017 on Premature Evaluation: The National Sleep Well Beast
well, Taylor does have co-writers. they get credited. I heard Terry Gross interview one of them. but, uh, most pop-stars just do the "change a word, earn a third" thing, where they are handed a song, decide they want to do it, and make a slight alteration which gets them a co-write credit and a third of the do-re-mi. this is, like, nearly every bubblegum pop-star. I'd be stunned if Rihanna doesn't do this as well, although she sells so much there may just be no need to bother. OTOH, I'm pretty sure Miley wrote most of her 'Dead Petz' lyrics, because, uh, it sounds that way. Kanye doesn't user other people's beats because he can't make a beat, he's just so mega that he can farm out any creative work he wants to. Katy Perry cannot write a damn song, or she would do so.
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August 31, 2017 on Drama Chameleon: Won’t The Real Taylor Swift Please Stand Up?
so what will their excuse be for why this album doesn't sell nearly as well as they did at their peak? because it won't. I thought Mormons weren't supposed to be so full of themselves? Cause that is some really full of themselves commentary, right there. But hey, the Killers have a handful of good tracks. No great entire album yet, and they probably just don't have it in them. Must be frustrating.
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August 23, 2017 on The Killers On Why Today’s Rock Bands Aren’t As Popular: “They’re Just Not Good Enough Yet”
so wait, this guy literally says "It’s a tool to sell you something: the story. In this case, a story based on a story.", like, exaggerating Murphey's comments is scandalous, just journos trying to make money. But them exaggerating their up-breaking-ness just to make money is, itself, being exaggerated, which they should totally be able to do because, uh, why? and then lies about how they made no money? I've never really given much of a crap about this band one way or the other, always seem a bit over-rated to me, but I'm beginning to think they're a real bunch of doofuses...
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August 21, 2017 on LCD Soundsystem’s Al Doyle: “It’s A Bit Of A Leap To Say The ‘Motivation’ Behind Ending The Band Is To Sell More Tickets”
no, trump inherited great wealth, c'mon. it has been well-documented that if he had taken his inheritance, and simply invested it in an indexed fund, he'd be vastly wealthier today than he's ended up - what with all of his Russian debt, and Deutsche Banke being the lone legitimate lending institution willing to lend him money (due to their own Russian money-laundering ventures). gene simmons is just an asshole because literally noone can stop him from being an asshole.
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August 19, 2017 on Gene Simmons To Critics Of His Devil Horns Trademark Attempt: “Bitch, I Can Do Anything I Want”
oooh, this is the one from that live post from a few months ago where 'haunted graffiti 13' was teased. sounds like a Psychedelic Furs / Cure mashup. all 3 of these new tracks are really great so far....
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August 16, 2017 on Ariel Pink – “Feels Like Heaven”
oh dear lizard, these guys are good singers, and they can't get it together to do a decent cover of this song? why?!? someone should do a good version of this song, it's kind of unique in their catalog. they always play it note for note as it is on the album, with no jam or elaboration. at least to my (limited since about NYE '96) knowledge....it's the only Phish song that could also have been a Cure song, IMO
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July 28, 2017 on Watch Fleet Foxes Cover Phish And Return The Phavor
yeah, Pink's need to just endlessly pity himself in public is part of what makes him so hard to take at times. and he wants for people to pity donald trump's dumb ass too? the guy has plenty of dumbshit foaming at the mouth lunatics who love him like a deity. people don't think "he can't do anything right" because they resent his "success", we're just all watching him do everything wrong. c'mon man. stop whining! and anyone who goes around saying that people resent success just for the sake of resenting success is just being a dick. its a shame, 'Time to Live' is one of the best tracks yet this year, to my ears. but ugh, what an insufferable wanker.
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July 25, 2017 on Q&A: Ariel Pink On Trump, Madonna, & His New Album Dedicated To Bobby Jameson
6 kids! yeesh, this is so sad. the world is pretty bleak these days, even for hugely successful, tens of million ablum-selling rock stars. what a shame.
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July 20, 2017 on Linkin Park’s Chester Bennington Dead At 41