An immense and devastatingly preventable loss.
Joss Whedon tweeted:
“See, this is the scene in the movie where you help me out.” ———————– If only. Immortal.
which pretty much sums it up.
A lot of videos were posted too, but this is my favourite, just because he was such a team player… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qJ_phQnNE80&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DqJ_phQnNE80&app=desktop
I’ll admit, I’m not normally affected by celebrity deaths because there’s a lump of coal where my heart should be, but this really hurts. Besides being incredibly talented, he always struck me as a genuinely kind and thoughtful person. I live close-ish to where he’s from and people are so upset.
This is such a shame.
we might as well let the rob schneiders and nick swardsons have hollywood now
I really am not doing well with this. For all his range, ability to creat a voice and mannerisms, he really brought such intense humanity to his roles. You felt it was coming from a compassion within him. And for it to be an addiction he actually fought, tried to get right… That’s more crushing.
It’s all hitting me hard enough that I’m reconnecting with an old high school friend because he’s the only person I know who would be reacting in the same way.
Yesterday I was sad because I really liked PSH, but thought to myself I can’t grieve for someone I don’t know. This is all very sad and I’m sorry for his family and friends, etc. Then I went on with my day. Then I saw his picture on someone’s paper on the train again and just started crying immediately. DAMMIT! I was so close to avoiding being sad.
I appreciate the sentiment behind referring to his death as “devastatingly preventable” but I don’t think that’s the case. Addiction is not preventable, because it is a disease, a very destructive and insidious one. PSH was clean for decades, worked a program and checked himself into rehab last year. As much as we can tell based on what he said when he talked about it, he was trying hard to manage his disease.
I don’t mean to pick on you but I have been dismayed over the past days reading comments about his death that don’t seem to understand or believe that addiction is a recognized disease and being able to manage it successfully is not a matter of willpower or strength or having people who love you or kids who depend on you or having the money to afford treatment — those things can help but they are no guarantee of success.
Obviously, this is a topic close to my heart. and I understand how it can seem like he “chose” this and if he didn’t make that choice, this could have been prevented. When you’re an addict though, you are literally having to make that choice a thousand times a day…the choice not to use. It’s exhausting to live that way.
I’m not trying to ‘accomplish’ anything other than share my thoughts, that you are free to ignore.
Addiction is a disease, it’s extremely difficult to overcome and some people aren’t able to do it. Those are facts and facts aren’t always pleasant. Getting 4 months clean is a wonderful accomplishment — it will continue to be hard work to stay clean. If you go out, is it because you didn’t work hard enough or because you don’t love your family enough or because you’re just weak? or is it because addiction is a tough opponent and not everyone wins against it?
Accepting and acknowledging how hard it is to beat an addiction doesn’t mean NOT trying, it means not underestimating how hard it is and how tricky your opponent is.
I wish all the best.
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